Adoption Blogging from the NYT

Apparently we’re not the only ones blogging about adoption in November. The New York Times has joined us, offering the Relative Choices blog. I’ve only read half the entries, but they’re incredible. Better than you’ll get from me. Here’s a sampling:

The Real Thing:

So in a way it is kind of nice to know as a parent of a child, biological or otherwise — whatever you do is going to be wrong. Like I say to Willow: “Well, you know, if you were still in China you would be working in a factory for 14 hours a day with only limited bathroom breaks!”

And she says — as has been said by children since time immemorial — “So what, I don’t care. I would rather do that than be here anyway.”

Reclaiming Ownership of My History:

Adoption isn’t just about destiny, circumstance and self-congratulation for “saving” a child. It’s also about the consequences of conscious decisions made for adoptees supposedly “in our best interest.” Regardless of whether it’s for better or worse, adoption is the power to change a life and as the saying goes, “With great power, comes great responsibility.” My history had been hidden and altered, affecting my life in ways I’m only beginning to understand. Furthermore, my father’s actions may have possibly prevented me from ever finding out the truth.

And finally, the story of a woman adopting a 6-year-old from Ethiopia. The following paragraph describes their first meeting, and while there are more poignant moments elsewhere in the story, this one grabbed me. I guess it’s because this is exactly what we’ll experience some day soon.

Blind Date in Addis:

I walked through the orphanage gate very apprehensive, but excited. There were kids playing, running, kicking a ball made of tied up socks. They were giggling and happy, drawn to us the minute we arrived in their midst. Some of them got very friendly and wanted to be held and touched.

(link via TPY)

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