Today and tomorrow we have all-day adoption classes that will hopefully answer some of our questions and no doubt bring up a lot more questions. But it’s exciting to move forward.
As much as I’ve talked about this process, I’m not sure I’ve talked about why we decided to adopt. And I should start by saying this is my own personal reason and I’m not suggesting it should apply to everyone. It’d be great if it did and I think maybe it should, but I won’t go that for. You’ve got to make up your own mind about that.
I want to adopt because I think there are just too many children in this world who need loving families. When I consider how many children out there are orphaned it seems almost selfish to naturally have a baby.
Of course we did have a baby naturally and I’m glad we did. It’s given me the confidence to know I can parent (OK, I’ll never know that for sure, but I haven’t broken Lexi yet). The step of being a parent was so huge I had trouble making it, and I’m not sure I could have done it if I also had to contend with the responsibility that this was someone else’s child.
You could call Lexi the practice child.
But now that I know what I’m doing–or at least have a better idea what I’m in for and feebly think I can handle it–I think I’m ready to help one of those millions of children who needs a home. I’m prepared for that responsibility.
I guess I want to adopt because it seems like the most loving, sensible and logical thing to do–which is kind of funny, because taking in a child that isn’t yours doesn’t sound very sensible or logical. But if you have any compassion in your heart it seems like a no-brainer.
I never feel like I’m explaining this stuff very well, that people will take offense where I didn’t intend it and not quite get what I’m trying to say. But there it is.