She’ll always be my daughter.

May 12th, 2011

I have three children.
Two live in my house.
One no longer does.
She came into my life last June and lived here until March.
Sometime around the holidays we began to notice a change. Not bad things, just changes.
Changes that showed us some parts of her past that were a surprise to everyone.
And changes that showed us she was not were she was supposed to be.
In April we made the decision to allow her to move to a new home, another family.
A place that, we hope, can provide what she needs and can devote all of their time and energy into helping her heal.
I wanted so badly to be that person. To be the one to help her heal.
But it was clear that living here was not what she needed from us right now.
What she needed from us was a chance to move on.

She doesn’t live with us anymore.
We’re legally not her parents.
But she will always be my daughter.

#21 The Hurt Toe

November 21st, 2010

Today at church Lexi tried to pull a door open at the same time someone else tried to push the door open. And since she doesn’t wear her shoes at church, her toe got run over by the door. The end result was a toe bent about 1/3 back, scraped up and pretty gross looking.

Kevin suggested (to Lexi) that we let the doctor at church take a look at it and decide if the toe nail should be cut off. Lexi misunderstood and thought we were debating about cutting her entire toe off. Which resulted in her not letting anyone near her foot.

She spent the afternoon milking the injury – lots of requests for sitting on the couch, watching movies, eating lunch/dinner anywhere except the table.

I had to build her a splint to the sheets on her bed wouldn’t bump her toe.

And of course, if Lexi’s toe is hurt then Milo’s toe is hurt. He watched Lexi limp around and whimper. So he demanded a band-aid and limped around and pretended to whimper.

Here’s the face Lexi made most of the day*:
Toe Drama

Her toe splint (or toe tent as she calls it):
Toe Drama

Milo’s injury:
Toe Drama

Lexi and Milo needing assistance to walk**:
Toe Drama

*Even though she’s screaming in this picture, she’s currently in bed giggling with Milo.

**Milo saw Lexi getting help and sat in the hallway saying “hand! hand!” until I helped him as well.

#8 That whole “cooking” thing

November 8th, 2010

Here’s reason 786 why I would suck at being a stay at home mom.
Cooking is not my thing.
Around 4:45 every day I open the fridge, stare at the shelves.
Around 4:50 every day I open the freezer and stare at the shelves.
And about 4:55, I pull out pancake mix and make pancakes for dinner.
I’m not a planner and when I do, I forget to buy ingredients, I change my mind, I forget to thaw meat, etc, etc.
It’s a given that 2 out 3 children will not even try what I make no matter how “kid friendly” the meal is so I rarely get creative and make interesting dinners.
This week however, I’ve been sorta proud of myself. 3 or 4 new dinners and a couple more planned for sometime in the near future.
Not bad.
I’ve also discovered a great trick – those moms that are the complete opposite of me – the ones that actually plan meals, grocery lists, the whole deal….well, they also blog. And put their calendars with grocery lists on their blog. So, a couple of quick blog searches and BAM whole months worth of meals planned out for me.

I Don’t Want My Kids to Be Happy

March 13th, 2010

I fell into a rabbit hole in blogland this morning and ended up here. More specifically, I ended up here, reading a post by a mom who doesn’t want her kids to be happy. And realizing how strongly I agree with her.

NaBloPoMo Post #30: Twists

November 30th, 2009

Look what I did today:

Yep, I put twists in Milo’s hair.
I only did the front third of his head for a couple of reasons.
1) That’s how many I could do while he ate lunch
2) The back of his high chair is really tall and I couldn’t get to the back of his head
3) I want to see how well these stay in before I attempt to make him sit still for his whole head. (If they last through nap time pretty well then I’ll finish the rest tonight.)

I’m hoping these will stay put and I can get enough practice to give him a new “do” for Christmas. I also need to pick up a better comb for parting his hair. I think it would look cuter if the parts were a little more defined.

On an unrelated note: GO ME! National Blog Posting Month, 30 Posts in 30 days. Check.

NaBloPoMo Post #7: A Love-Hate Relationship with Lilo and Stitch

November 6th, 2009

I love the movie Lilo and Stitch. It’s one of my favorite Disney movies (along with Fantasia, Fantasia 2000, Beauty and the Beast and Newsies). It’s also one of Lexi’s favorite movies. There was a period several months ago where anytime she got to watch a movie she requested Lilo and Stitch. And then, we had to ban the movie.

For those of you who don’t have a need to watch cartoons, Lilo is a 5-year-old with some serious spunk. Funny but packed with attitude. Stitch is an alien genetic experiment that was created to destroy – he is irresistibly drawn to large cities, where he will back up sewers, reverse street signs, and steal everyone’s left shoe – and without the capability to love. But, surprise, surprise, Lilo and Stitch become a family.

Now the reason for the ban. Lilo sticks out her tongue. A lot. And Lexi started sticking out her tongue. A lot. So she was told until she stopped doing that, no more Lilo and Stitch. Well, she did a pretty good job of breaking herself of that habit. So we let her watch the movie again. And, I have a feeling there may be another ban coming soon.

The following is a list of Lilo (or Stitch) things that Lexi does:

1. Throws herself on the floor face down when she doesn’t get her way. (on the upside, it’s a very quiet temper tantrum).

2. We ask a question, she says “no”, we say, “What are you saying “no” to?” She says, “Nooooo!” This is a direct quote from the movie.

3. Draws pictures and says “This is you. This is your anger level. It’s very high.” (This is how Lilo explains Stitches initial rage.)

4. And the real kicker…she destroyed a book last night. Tore a book to shreds. Every single page torn out and torn into long strips and stuffed under her bed. And when asked why she did it. “Stitch did it.”

Update: 5. I forgot this one i posted. Stitch likes to call people “stupid head”.

So, the movie may need to go into hiding again. Which is sad (for me) because it’s one of the few movies of hers that I actually enjoy watching with her.

What Milo has been up to…

June 9th, 2009

Milo is just over 7 months old. And it’s amazing how much he’s changed in just the short time he’s been home.

  • He’s learned how to grab on to toys and shake and bang them around.
  • He thinks that blowing raspberries with a mouth full of food or milk is pretty funny.
  • He can roll from back to front and front to back. But only one direction so he’ll roll across a room and then we have to turn him around.
  • He can give high-five if you ask him.
  • He’s ticklish. Really, really ticklish.
  • He knows who Mom and Dad are.
  • And he likes us better than other grown-ups.
  • He recognizes Lexi and thinks she’s a great source of entertainment.
  • He’s almost figured out how to sit up.
  • When he takes a bath, he splashes out most of the water.
  • He’s also figured out his own way of holding a bottle.

More Randomness

March 10th, 2009

I’m guessing until we leave these posts are going to be filled with random thoughts and ramblings. Sorry.

1. I won! Okay, I hardly ever win anything. But I entered a blog give away on Infinita Diversidade and I won. My package (from Brazil) arrived today. I had completely forgotten about it because it took over a month to get here (cuz, you know, it was coming from Brazil). I’m excited about this loot. Check it out:
My Winnings
There’s a big pile of fat quarters, 3 different colors of felt, floss, beads, a handmade birthday card, really cool lace/trim, thread, buttons and ribbon. Plus, the little tan bag with the teapots is actually a bag containing an apron that she made.

Apron from my Winnings

2. We left tonight (in a mini snow storm, mind you) to run errands. We needed to go to REI, IKEA and Target. We got to the exit of REI and guess who threw up, again, for the second time since Friday? So we pulled over, cleaned up Lexi and headed back home. Where she threw up again. Blech. Although now she’s watching Veggie Tales and demanding water and food. I’m thinking she’ll be fine.

3. My lesson plans, preping everything the sub will need, photocopies, and supplies are all ready to go. The finished copies of the lesson plans and classroom routines ended up being somewhere between 75-100 pages. It’s amazing how much you need to tell a person to in order to leave them in charge of 21 kindergarteners. My room is almost cleaned out as well. Only things that still need cleaning belong to the kids so they will be cleaning on Monday and Tuesday.

4. It’s hard to believe that in 10 days we will go from a family of 3 to a family of 4.

Should Parenting Be Discussed?

January 22nd, 2009

I recently had a conversation regarding whether or not parenting is a topic that is open for discussion. I’m of the opinion that parenting is a topic that should be discussed (and among several of my friends it’s one of our most exhaustive subjects) but I know others feel that it is a topic not open for discussion.

I should clarify when I say ‘parenting’ I’m referring to all aspects of parenting – from the abstract styles of parenting (what do you think of this style parenting vs. that style) to the specific (we do _____ with Lexi because….I noticed you do ______with little Stanly. Does that work well for you? Why did you decide to do that?)

I tend to lean towards the philosophy of “It Takes A Village” when it comes to parenting my child. I want to know what others do and why they do it. I also appreciate it when people ask me why we do things with our kids the way we do. Often times those are tough questions to answer but having to answer them makes me re-evaluate what I’m doing as a parent and decide if it’s something I should keep doing or if changes need to be made.

I don’t think a person can tell someone how to raise their family. But I think discussing parenting and even offering advice on the topic can be beneficial. And if advice is going to be given it has to be received as well. It’s a package deal. It also needs to be done carefully. Don’t give me advice on how to handle a temper tantrum when I’m wrestling a screaming and kicking 3-year-old into her coat and carrying her out the door. But when we are hanging out and things are peaceful feel free to bring up that time you saw me wresting her into her coat and tell me about when you had to do the same thing and how you handled it.

Personally, I learn best from watching others and hearing their experiences than I do from reading all kinds of parenting books and articles. What about the rest of you? How often do you discuss parenting with others? How personal do you get when you discuss it?

Wait, I just thought of something…

October 12th, 2008

Ford is adding a MyKey system to their 2010 cars. It’s a separate key that is assigned to your car specifically for your teenage driver(s).

The key limits the car’s top speed to 80 mph (although I don’t know why any teenager needs to be driving that fast.)

The key limits audio volume to 44% of the stereo’s ability.

The key gives a more persistent seatbelt warning (it beeps obnoxiously until a seatbelt is put on).

The key also chimes at 45, 55, & 65 mph.

Personally, I think this is a great idea for teenage drivers. It would also be nice if it was able to somehow block cell phone use while driving. I just wish it wasn’t an optional package for new car buyers. I think this should be standard on all cars. I also think OnStar should be a standard safety feature but I doubt that will happen.