Here are a few (very simplified) thoughts on Orphan Sunday.
A few things to clarify:
1. Yes, I am a Christian and I believe that means I am called to care for the orphan and the widow. It’s talked about over and over in the Bible.
2. I am not anti-adoption. (You’ve seen my family, right?)
Now, my thoughts on November 7 – Orphan Sunday
1. Biblically speaking, the church as a whole needs to do more to care for the orphans.
But it needs to be done in a way that is non-manipulative. No staggering statistics, no “before and after” type slide shows, no sappy music. It needs to be a call to action. It needs to have the mind-set that in the future there will not be a need for “Orphan Sunday” because the church has been working towards social change – keeping families together. Providing for the needs of the family– sustainable resources, clean water, access to medical care. Adoption is a last resort.
2. Stop using the Bible as an excuse to dismiss ethics.
Adoption is complicated and heart-breaking. Yes it creates a family and that is a joyful thing but there is grief and loss and sadness and suffering. When your child asks you the tough questions are you going to be able to honestly say to them “We knew that the only option left was adoption.”?
3. No more “rescuing” children.
Every single time some says “Thank you” or “Bless you” to me for adopting our kids, I cringe. I am not a hero. I wanted more kids. And we decided to add to our family through adoption. Period.
4. What I want to see happen
I want to see change. I want to see churches stand up and say that caring for the orphan means fighting for ethics in adoption, ending the sex trade and ending human trafficking
I want to see people providing access to medical care, clean water and an education.
I want to see education on adoption and the complexities that surround it.