Yep, even you equate having children with a horrible thing – getting “burned”. Every chuild a wanted child. That is all those of us who are pro-choice have ever asked.

Jessica and I actually did a marathon pre-marriage counseling today, and the pastor had noted that we weren’t planning on having kids. His question then, after hearing the why of that, was whether we would be okay with it if it did accidentally happen (whoopsy!). Our answer was yes, for pretty much the same reasons you just listed. Sex is fun and all, but the whole “children” thing is something that you should have to expect when you do it.

If you “cannot be responsible and adoring and present,” don’t do it, as you said. That would be the usual modern “I don’t want to be respsonible for myself and my own actions,” bit, and I am more than a bit disappointed to hear her say that. *sighs* Not that far too many would agree with her anyways, but oh well.